"As a retired corporate executive, my basic nature is practical and not so easy to impress. I appreciated Cindy’s professionalism and honest, straightforward demeanor as well as her tact, caring, and sensitivity when suggesting improvements or challenging me to think differently. I was ready to find a woman who was right for me and me right for her. Cindy's well-thought out dating process prepared me to find the fascinating woman who is in my life now. I would not be where I am today without Cindy's guidance and support." — Robert
“Cindy clearly understands the inner workings of romantic relationships. She helped me process the aftermath of my divorce by unpacking the story I was telling myself about my parent’s divorce. She was relentless in helping me identify what I was suppressing and how to overcome that. I now have a clearer understanding of myself and what it will take to find a best-matched mate and build a healthy secure partnership. There are no words to describe how transformational her work is.” — John
"Working with Cindy was the best thing that ever happened to my dating life. She accepted me for who I was while clearly challenging me in a respectful way to step back and view my entire dating approach differently. I'm in my mid-40s, think of myself as having a lot to offer a potential partner, but had not found a woman that I really gelled with or where the attraction was mutual. Cindy’s method opened my eyes to view dating as a strategic process with specific benchmarks and action plan. It never occurred to me to approach myself as a ‘brand’; now I do." — Mike
I was fortunate to be happily married for many decades. I envisioned spending my retirement years with my wife, but life did not turn out as planned, as I'm now a widower. I never thought the next woman I fell in love with would ever replace my first wife, which was my first love, but I maintained hope that finding new love would be the start of a brand-new future.
I began dating several years after my late wife's passing. Even though I was meeting and dating a variety of women, I felt frustrated and disappointed with my efforts. Then, I met Cindy. Little did I know that my life was about to change in ways I could have never imagined.
Once I stepped back and constructively examined who I was and the impressions I was presenting, nothing about me stood out. To be honest, I felt vanilla, bland, and boring. Cindy assured me that was not the case; I just didn’t have the knowledge and correct skill set to market and present my best self to the women I wanted to date.
Here are highlights of the changes and improvements I made following The Date Smart Playbook for Men:
Cindy pressed one point emphatically: self-awareness was intrinsic to successful dating. She worked with me to clarify my needs, wants, values, and aspirations. I completed several exercises and assessments to find out more about me — my strengths, blind spots, and challenges — not only in my dating life but in the rest of my life as well. This introspection, along with all the other changes and improvements I was making, increased my self-confidence substantially. I discovered I really did have a lot to offer a prospective mate and no longer felt like an unconscious incompetent dater.
I replaced plain, unframed eyeglasses with three distinctive looking pairs. After consultation with a skin care specialist, I chose three facial procedures: BBL (broad ban light to reduce sun damage); Sculptra (wrinkle reduction); and upper eyelid lift. I began a daily skin care regimen and had my teeth whitened. I updated my hairstyle and changed my diet to eat more healthily. I worked with a wardrobe consultant selecting items that fit my body type, skin tone, and style.
Cindy noticed I had not completely worked through the pain of my late wife's passing. She encouraged me to work with a qualified therapist to resolve this (therapy is rarely high on a man’s list; we think we can handle things ourselves). I’m so glad I decided to look beyond this limited belief. I have to say this was the best thing I have ever done for myself.
IDEAL PARTNER CHARACTERISTICS
Cindy helped me clarify what I really wanted in a partner, my must-haves (non-negotiables), preferences, and can't stands. This was a critical part of the process as she knows how easy it is to 'settle for less' given how taxing dating can be. She cautioned about love's neurochemical cocktail; that hot mix of hormones that clouds rational thinking when it comes to picking a mate, especially in the early stages of dating. I recall her sage advice: 'Make sure you read her lips, not just her hips!'
We completely overhauled my online dating presence. Cindy helped me rewrite my profile, taking the difficulty out of writing about myself to tell a much more interesting story of who I was and what I was looking for. I replaced photos with new ones showing my updated look and areas of interest. In no time my activity tripled!
I’ve highlighted the main aspects of my experience in working with Cindy. The knowledge, resources, and wisdom she imparted were profound. I am a changed man.
I've met a fabulous woman on an online dating site and we are engaged! I met "the one".
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