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The Date Smart Playbook for Men™ is the most in-depth strategic dating and relational guide you will ever find to attract a best-fit match and lasting partnership.

It features 3 Key Dating Essentials: 

  • Build Your Man Brand: Leverage the power of personal branding
  • Develop Emotional Intelligence: Understand yourself and women at a deeper level
  • Strengthen Dating and Relational Skills: Ranges from first impression to lasting love

The playbook's content is derived from behavioral psychology, coaching and relationship modalities, neuroscience, spirituality, and my personal experiences and professional expertise.

It's jam-packed with practical tools, skills, and concepts. It offers DATE SMARTS TIPS and ASK CINDY FAQs designed to boost overall dating acumen, confidence, and results.

Here's a bit of the philosophy behind its development and key areas covered: 

  • Working on yourself and understanding female psychology is key to achieve dating success.
  • Visual identity is all about making the most of what you have. It includes style, fashion, fitness, wardrobe, body language, mannerisms, and home decor. Women form first impressions in a nanosecond.
  • Business executives, politicians, and athletes don't accidentally wind up at the top; they've branded their way there. Building your Man Brand distinguishes you in the dating marketplace.
  • Emotional intelligence plays a significant role in love and how intimate relationships grow and mature over time.
  • Stopping the return-repeat of past relationship dysfunction is dependent on learning how love history and behavioral patterns played into this.
  • Strengthening dating and relational skills greatly improves confidence. This includes dating do’s and don’ts, ideal partner traits, online dating, vetting prospective mates, skillful communication, relational conflict, and sustaining love.

In developing this playbook, I wanted to better understand the pertinent issues and obstacles men faced in dating today. Here's the results of my research:

  • Men in happy, healthy, and secure relationships pay big dividends. They make more money, enjoy more intimacy, live longer, have better physical health, and less cognitive impairment later in life.
  • Even though divorce rates are going down, they still hover around 42-45%; 60% of second marriages and 73% of third marriages end in divorce. 70-80% of divorces are initiated by women. For ages 54-64, two-thirds are sought by women.*
  • Self-aware men work on themselves. They want to identify and overcome patterns that caused past relationship distress. They want to recognize the red flags in a potential relationship. They strive to be outwardly successful and to be inwardly fulfilled.
  • Men who lack self-awareness don’t work on themselves. They don’t seek help when facing relational issues. They dismiss a woman’s emotions or immediately try to fix them. They want to succeed in love but are unsure of what to do or how to go about it.
  • Men are often left confused by how gender roles have shifted over the decades and women's mixed messages. They wonder: "Should I provide and protect or give behind-the-scene-support?... Do I simply listen or try to be her hero?"
  • Men often don't seek help when dealing with relational issues. They rarely re-access their emotional, mental, and spiritual needs after experiencing a breakup, divorce, loss of a spouse.
  • When men apply masculine traits typical in the business world to the dating and relational field, they thwart establishing and sustaining true connection and intimacy. They include winning, power, control, non-emotion, toughness, and self-reliance.
  • In his book, The Mask of Masculinity, Lewis Howes speaks extensively about various male masks: Stoic, Athlete, Material, Aggressive, Joker, Invincible, Know-It-All, and Alpha. These masks passed down through generations can greatly inhibit men.
  • In today's evolving relational landscape, we need to rethink what culture and society communicate about masculinity and femininity, dropping the stereotypical attitudes that hinder developing healthy and secure relationships. Only when these outmoded mindsets are released can men and women truly see and love each other.

 Several men share their Success Stories. Bob's story, in particular, provides his in-depth experience.

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Source: * McKinley Irvin Family Law Blog, Divorce Source, Divorce Lawyers for Men