Many years ago, after volunteering at a women’s resource center, which aids women coping with divorce, family, financial, and health issues, my then eight-year-old son asked a question: “Mom, is there a men’s resource center?” I paused and answered: “No, honey, there’s not.”
For years, his question weighed on my mind. Then, one day meeting a friend for coffee discussing our respective businesses, I shared how working with men held great interest, most likely influenced by raising a son and experiencing a divorce where his father and I 'consciously uncoupled' when our marriage ended in divorce. We found mutual respect, kindness, and compassion, rather than bitterness and anger. This attitude greatly benefited us, and most importantly, our son. And that, I cannot emphasize enough.
I believed my experience could serve as a role model for both men and women transitioning through this life changing event.
I know, first-hand, how daunting dating can be. It's complex, frustrating, and disappointing. I've learned a lot as I reflect on the many mistakes I've made on my dating journey. Yet, what I became acutely aware of was just how clueless many men were when dating. Simply put, they lacked dating and relationship skills that I knew were 100% teachable.
This excerpt from The Man's Guide to Women, authored by John Gottman PhD and Julie S. Gottman PhD, really resonated with me:
"Men, you have the power to make or break a relationship. That's right. Research shows that what men do in a relationship is, by a large margin, the crucial factor that separates a great relationship from a failed one. This does not mean that women do not need to do their part, but the data proves that a man's actions are the key variable that determines whether a relationship succeeds or fails, which is ironic since most relationship books are written for women. That's kind of like doing open heart surgery on the wrong patient."
Now, more than twenty years after my son's poignant question: "Mom, is there a men's resource center?", I enthusiastically answer: "Yes, there is."
I proudly present Corner Office Cupid: The Date Smart Playbook for Men.
When a content marketer presented Corner Office Cupid as a possible company name, he had no idea of how this would resonate. Years ago, as a former director of office leasing with a commercial real estate developer, I understood the status of ‘corner office’ and how it implies success. I spray painted – ‘The Big Cheese’ – on the concrete floor of a pizza chain executive director's CORNER OFFICE, prior to tenant build-out.
In looking back, that's pretty cool. We never know what life will return to us.
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